Dear Aunt Latifa,
I met a wonderful 32 year old French Moroccan man in the U.S. Here was here for his work.
We spent time together here. We knew he'd be going back to France soon since his job ended here.
Since he's left in September, he's called a few times a week, sent some emails and ecards, flowers and a birthday gift for my child.
I haven't heard from him in 2 1/2 weeks. I called and left a message and later wrote to say hi. Now the planned visit, my trip there to visit him, is in about a week. He had invited me to visit him but now no word from him.
I am U.S. born to Hispanic parents, 42 years old with a 12 year old son. Raised in a Catholic home but non-practicing. He's single, no kids. While he's been there he said he wants to move back to the states, has been checking out jobs and real estate. He's always instigated these subjects about future plans. I've rarely called him but sometimes he talked, sometimes I left a message.
I could just not visit but I don't want to miss a vacation in France. I could also just book a hotel and be alone and enjoy myself. But I still think I'll see him when I get off the plane. He knows which flight I'll arrive on.
I've been so so heartbroken, unsure if I'll ever see him again. I'm trying to date here to get over him but my heart isn't in it. I'm just so worried he won't pick me up at the airport and my heart will be in further pain. While I'm there I can certainly keep busy sightseeing (been there before on my own for vacations) but I won't book a hotel yet(in case I can't stay with him) ....thinking he will pick me up at the airport.
I just feel bad sometimes. Even if there's no future, I'd hate to leave things so untidy.
that's all
A.
Update on Monday, April 28, 2008 at 09:53PM by
auntlatifa
Dearest A.,
By the time you read my answer I guess you'll be back from your journey in France. Nevertheless, I want to warn you for this man. He surely is handsome and charming and he even more surely is looking for a way to stay in the USA. Maybe he didn't contact you anymore because he already found a way to do so or because he changed his mind. Or maybe his parents didn't want him to move away or found him a nice and suitable Moroccan fiancée... So many possibilities, so many answers.
The only thing you should keep in mind is : if this man loves me truely, he will never ever hurt me or use me. There you've got your answer.
I know life is sometimes really difficult for single women (for others too) but that fact shouldn't make us forget our common sense. Forget about this French Moroccan lover and I do really hope that during your stay in France you met a really nice, loving and trustworthy Frenchman...beware of muslim loverboys !
Always here for you,
Aunt Latifa 
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